5 Steps to Help Kids Find and Grow Their Natural High

Imagine your teen bursting through the door after school, their eyes bright and alive. They can’t wait to tell you about the song they learned in music class, the game-winning shot they made, or the story they just finished writing. In that moment, you see something powerful: joy, pride, and possibility all rolled into one.

That spark of excitement is not just a pastime. It is the beginning of their natural high—the passion that lights them up inside, gives them purpose, and shields them when life offers risky shortcuts.

Every parent and educator dreams of moments like this. Because when a young person finds what makes them come alive, they discover a reason to stay focused, to push through challenges, and to say “no” when the pressure to fit in comes knocking.

This isn’t wishful thinking. Research shows that teens who find and pursue their natural high are more likely to thrive, build resilience, and make healthier choices.

So the question becomes: how do you help a child uncover that spark and keep it burning?

Here are 5 steps you can take today to guide them toward a future filled with purpose, confidence, and joy.

Step 1: Understand Why Natural Highs Matter

Finding a natural high is not a small thing. It is one of the strongest predictors of whether a young person thrives.

That means our role goes beyond warning kids about risky behavior. We need to point them toward something positive.

When a child discovers an activity they love, it shifts their focus. They are not just avoiding a risk. They are chasing a purpose.

Let’s see what that could sound like:

Parent Script Example:
“I love seeing how excited you get when you talk about soccer. That feeling you have when you are on the field? That is your spark, your natural high. I want to help you keep chasing it.”

Educator Script Example:
“I notice how focused you get when we do creative projects in class. That is a clue about what excites you. What other activities give you that same energy?”

Step 2: Listen Closely to Your Teen

Many parents think they know their kids, but research shows we often underestimate the challenges they face.

To support a child’s natural high, you need to go deeper. Commit to understanding what makes them tick. Practice active listening, and notice what lights them up.

Parent Script Example:
“I want to know more about what makes you feel alive. What is something you have done recently that gave you that spark of excitement?”

Educator Script Example:
“I saw how much effort you put into that science project. What was your favorite part of working on it? Did it feel like something you would want to keep exploring?”

Step 3: Help Your Teen Explore Their Interests

Once a spark is discovered, your role is to help it grow. Do not just watch from the sidelines. Encourage them to explore it further.

Research with them. Show them videos of role models who share that passion. 

Show your teen real examples. Watch a video from one of Natural High’s 50+ Storytellers (athletes, musicians, influencers, artists, celebrities) who turned their passion into purpose.

Check in often and ask how it is going.

Parent Script Example:
“You have been spending more time playing guitar lately. Do you want me to help you find a few videos of musicians who inspire you? Maybe we could even look into local lessons.”

Educator Script Example:
“You mentioned you enjoy writing stories. Would you like me to connect you with the school newspaper advisor? It could be a great way to share your talent.”

Step 4: Support Your Teen’s Passion with Time and Tools

Words of encouragement matter, but kids also need resources. Think about what time, energy, or financial support you can give.

If there is an after-school class that fits, enroll them. If they need equipment or space, help make it possible. Think about what you can provide. 

When kids see you are willing to invest in what they love, it sends a powerful message: they matter, and their passion matters.

Parent Script Example:
“I know you love art, and there is a Saturday workshop coming up at the community center. Want me to sign us up so you can try it out?”

Educator Script Example:
“I see how much you enjoy coding. I would be happy to recommend you for the after-school robotics club. Would you like me to connect you with the advisor?”

Step 5: Encourage Commitment and Perseverance

Every passion will hit rough patches. The first rush of excitement always fades, and the hard work sets in. Your teen might feel like quitting when practice gets long, skills come slowly, or setbacks sting.

That is when your encouragement matters most. Remind them of the progress they have made. Celebrate effort as much as achievement. Show them that persistence is what turns a spark into a lasting natural high.

Studies on motivation show that when young people stick with their passions, they build resilience and confidence that carry into every part of life

Parent Script Example:
“I know practicing piano feels tough right now. But I have seen how far you have come. Do you remember the first song you played? Look at what you can do now.”

Educator Script Example:
“I can tell you are frustrated with your project, but that is normal when you are learning something new. The fact that you are sticking with it shows real strength.”

Moving Forward

Every step you take to support a young person’s natural high helps them build a strong foundation for the future. It keeps them focused on what matters and steers them away from risky choices.

Together, we can help kids find that spark—their natural high—that will change their lives for the better.

We are here to support you every step of the way.

I hope you find these tips helpful. Together we can help our kids find that spark that will change their lives for the better.

We’re here to support you.